I grew up watching the Today Show with my parents in the morning. Now, I’m scared to turn on the news with my kids in the room. Horrific scenes can pop up before you know it, and even during sports, ads for violent movies and video games seem endless.

At the Grammys, I watched my kids tear up as they saw LA families evacuating their prized possessions during the fires—raising money for those in need. It’s hard not to wonder how this affects their own fears, especially when active shooter drills have become the norm at school.

According to Nemours KidsHealth, “The average American child will see 200,000 violent acts on TV by age 18. Many of these are done by the ‘good guys,’ whom kids are taught to admire.” This can blur the lines between right and wrong. As I raise a boy, I see the impact of his TV-watching almost instantly in his behavior.

So, I wanted to research ways to help kids process world events and the media’s bias toward conflict. My hope? To lay the groundwork for thoughtful conversations and healthy media habits as they grow.

Understanding How Children Process World Events

Children’s comprehension of world events varies by age, and their reactions can differ accordingly. Recognizing these developmental stages can help tailor discussions to their needs.

Age Group How they Process World Events
Ages 2-5 Young children may not grasp the full context but can sense emotions and changes in routine. They might exhibit signs of anxiety, such as clinginess or changes in sleep patterns.
Ages 6-11 At this stage, children are more aware of events and may have questions. They might display worry through repetitive questioning or seeking reassurance.
Ages 12+ Pre-teens and teenagers can understand complex issues and may feel overwhelmed by the information. They might show signs of stress, such as irritability or withdrawal.

My Personal Experience

After a recent surgery, my 3.5-year-old son started acting out more. His routine changed, and one parent was “down for the count.” He may have been worried but didn’t have the words to express it.

For my older kids, I look at physical symptoms (headaches, stomachaches) and emotional shifts (withdrawal or increased sensitivity). Answering their questions thoughtfully is key.

Before You Start: Parent Prep Guide

Before diving into these conversations, it’s important to check in on yourself first.

  • Manage Your Own Anxiety: Kids pick up on our emotions—including political viewpoints. Mine can tell you who each parent voted for just from listening at home!
  • Choose a Safe Environment: The calmer we are, the safer our kids feel. Approaching conversations with curiosity instead of fear makes a difference.
  • Gather Age-Appropriate Resources: Picture books work well for younger kids, while older kids benefit from well-vetted articles.
  • Find the Right Time: My “power hour” is after dinner and playtime—a calm moment when they’re most receptive. Pausing a game or show also works well.

And when in doubt? Turn off the news if it’s trending too negative—it helps everyone’s mood.

Age-Appropriate Conversation Starters

Reaching your kid on their level is key, so they can understand and process the information. Here are some basic guidelines that could be helpful.

Ages 2-5

  • Keep It Simple: For young kids, using straightforward language can help. “There was a big fire, but many helpers are working to keep everyone safe.”
  • Use Picture Books: Trinka and Sam: The Big Fire (available as a free PDF and on YouTube).
  • Highlight the Helpers: Police officers, firefighters, doctors—those are the real superheroes!

Ages 6-11

  • Ask What They’ve Heard: “What do you know about the fires?”
  • Address Misconceptions: Kids often fill in the blanks with their own fears—gently correct misinformation.
  • Use Maps & Visuals: Showing where events happen provides context.

Ages 12+

  • Encourage Critical Thinking: “Why do you think this happened? What could help?”
  • Discuss Media Literacy: Explain how algorithms work—why YouTube & TikTok may not always be reliable news sources.
  • Explore Solutions Together: “What could we do to help?” This builds empathy and action.

Expert-Backed Strategies for Difficult Conversations

One of the best parenting tools? Time.

Dr. Daniel Amen frequently shares on social media that spending just 15-20 minutes of undistracted time with your child (letting them lead the conversation) is one of the best things a parent can do.

The reality? Many parents only spend about 7 minutes of 1:1 time per week with each child. That dedicated time reduces jealousy, anxiety, and behavior issues significantly.

  • Active Listening: Repeat what they say to show understanding.
  • Validate Their Feelings: “It’s okay to feel scared. A lot of people do during big events.”
  • Balance Honesty with Hope: Share facts without fueling fear.
  • Know When to Get Help: If anxiety interferes with daily life, professional support can be a game-changer.

Actionable Ways to Help Kids Feel Empowered

Feeling helpless is one of the biggest sources of anxiety. Giving kids a sense of action helps. 

For younger kids, this could be dropping off thank you cards at your local fire station, or for older kids, participating in community events is a great way to get involved and feel empowered. 

Family projects make a big difference, too. Help clean up the beach events, and look for organizations where you can help with packages for those displaced by natural disasters. Planting trees together and engaging in community events while you travel can also make a big difference.

Managing Media Exposure

Controlling the flow of information helps prevent overwhelm.

  • Screen Time Guidelines: Set limits on news consumption and ensure age-appropriate content.
  • Choosing News Sources: Opt for child-friendly news outlets that present information calmly and factually.
  • Social Media Considerations: Monitor older children’s social media use and discuss the potential for misinformation.

Our family-friendly tech contract can significantly help any family new to maneuvering these conversations.

Creating Ongoing Dialogue

Maintaining open lines of communication fosters trust and resilience.

  • Regular Check-Ins: Schedule routine discussions to address any new concerns or questions.
  • Family Meetings: Create a safe space where each family member can share their thoughts and feelings.
  • Teach Resilience: Help kids focus on solutions, not fear.

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By approaching these conversations with care and understanding, we can help our children navigate the world’s complexities with confidence and resilience.

Final Thought: We can’t shield our kids from everything, but we can help them process, understand, and feel empowered.