Simple Self-Care Practices for Busy Parents That Make a Big Difference
Let’s be real for a second: self-care can feel like a luxury. When you’re juggling diaper changes, homework help, and trying to keep up with the never-ending to-do list, taking a moment to breathe (let alone meditate) can seem laughably impossible. But here’s the thing: self-care doesn’t have to mean taking an entire day off or booking a retreat. In fact, even tiny shifts can make a huge difference. So, for all my busy parents out there, here are some quick, practical self-care practices that fit into your life.
Self-care ideas to make a part of your busy schedule
1. Morning Mindfulness: Starting the Day with You
You know that feeling when you wake up and immediately hit the ground running? Kids are asking for breakfast, and emails are piling up. It's the morning chaos. But what if you took just a few minutes for yourself before all that?
I’m talking about a simple morning ritual: deep breaths, a moment of quiet, and a quick check-in with you. A fantastic resource for this is the Nested Institute, which offers guided mindfulness practices perfect for busy parents. Think of it as a mini-meditation retreat from the comfort of your bed (or wherever you manage to carve out a corner of calm). Just five minutes to gather yourself, and boom—you're already winning the day.
2. Creative Outlets: Feed Your Soul
We tend to let our creative hobbies slide as adults, but it’s time to bring them back. Creative expression isn’t just for the kids’ arts-and-crafts hour—it’s for you, too! Whether it’s doodling, painting, or a bit of poetry, feeding your creative side can feel refreshingly therapeutic.
For a gentle, inspiring approach, check out Jenn Wert’s resources. Jenn’s programs and workshops encourage creativity and self-discovery, guiding you to tap into that inner spark. A little creativity goes a long way in keeping you grounded, so grab those colored pencils and let yourself play.
3. Mini Workouts That Pack a Punch
Hear me out: you don’t need an hour to get a good workout. In fact, a quick, high-energy 5-minute movement session can be exactly what your body and mind crave. Whether it’s a mini strength circuit or a burst of cardio, these “pocket workouts” can leave you feeling surprisingly refreshed (and no, you don’t have to change out of your pajamas!).
Lift Like a Mother has workout programs designed for moms looking to get strong and stay fit without a huge time commitment. These workouts are perfect for squeezing in some fitness between school drop-offs and snack prep. Five minutes? You’ve got that.
4. Introduce Low-Key Meditation and Visualization
Creativity flourishes in active play but also in moments of calm. In the evenings, I love practicing simple meditation techniques with my kids, like autogenics (a form of relaxation using calming phrases) and visualization. A wonderful resource to introduce this is Brain Vacation: A Guide to Meditation from the Big World of Little Dude series. This book helps young children playfully explore relaxation and focus techniques, making it easy for parents to engage their kids in mindfulness practices. Exercises like picturing peaceful scenes or visualizing success can help kids unlock the power of their minds, promoting calm and mental resilience when life gets tough. For more tools to support these practices, Big World of Little Dude offers additional resources for parents, making it easy to foster emotional well-being at home.
5. Capture the Moments: Journaling Your Journey
Have you ever had a million thoughts but zero time to process them? That’s where journaling comes in. Taking even a few minutes to jot down your thoughts, dreams, or even random musings can do wonders for clearing the mental clutter. For a journaling experience that feels both meaningful and manageable, Memorize Your Life offers a unique approach to documenting your journey. It’s all about capturing those precious moments and reflections in a way that feels natural. It’s not about filling pages—just capturing you, one small moment at a time.
6. Seek Connection and Support
Let’s face it: sometimes, the best self-care is knowing you’re not alone. There’s power in finding community—whether a quick text with a friend or a deeper connection with a group that understands what you’re going through. Enter Polina Todisco, whose workshops and groups offer support and community for parents seeking a little extra help along the way. These aren’t just parenting pep talks; they’re a chance to be heard, supported, and inspired by others in the same boat.
Final Thoughts: Parenting yourself with self-care for moms and dads
Self-care doesn’t have to be complicated or require hours of free time. Small, intentional moments—whether a quick workout, a soothing tea, or a supportive community—can help you feel recharged, connected, and ready to tackle anything that comes your way.
So here’s the challenge: pick one of these practices and try it out this week. Let it be simple. Let it fit into your day. And remember: taking care of you is taking care of everyone else, too. Because when you’re feeling good, you’re unstoppable!
This article was written by Cara Zelas in collaboration with World of Little Dude—Helping raise kind, confident, and emotionally healthy kids.
Living with Endometriosis: My Journey to Diagnosis
For years, I brushed off monthly discomfort, assuming it was just part of life as a woman. Doctors had conditioned me to accept it. I repeatedly sought help, saying my periods were unbearable, but the response was always, “That’s normal for a woman your age.”
However, after my third child and a renewed focus on my health, I started questioning if my pain was normal at all. Each month, I struggled with intense agony, needing excessive pain relief, and found myself thinking I’d rather endure childbirth again than experience what was happening every few weeks. This couldn’t be “normal.”
When the pain became constant and intolerable, it was finally time to dig deeper.
Understanding the Signs of Endometriosis
The Pain I Couldn’t Ignore
It started with painful periods, which I initially attributed to postpartum changes or even perimenopause. But as the pain worsened, I decided to try an IUD to manage it—a choice I quickly regretted. Within a few months, I felt torn apart from the inside, and my doctor recommended I wait a week for a sonogram. I declined and had the IUD removed immediately. Though the sonogram showed nothing, the pain subsided, leaving me frustrated and without answers for the agony I knew would return.
“It’s All in Your Head”
Months passed with no diagnosis, and the pain affected my marriage, mental health, and ability to parent. After a stressful home remodel, convinced I had an infection, I went back to my doctor. During a pelvic exam, the pain was so severe that my doctor ordered a hysterosonogram—a thorough but painful procedure. The test revealed a polyp, considered common for “women my age.”
When my doctor suggested removing the polyp and trying another IUD, I reached my breaking point. I was done with solutions that didn’t work. I needed a new approach.
That was when things shifted. After a closer examination, my doctor mentioned something unexpected—she suspected endometriosis.
Connecting the Dots
Endometriosis? I’d heard the term in passing but never thought it applied to me. I had three beautiful children, and my fertility had not been affected—unlike the common perception of endometriosis as a condition that impacts fertility.
Finally, I saw the renowned endometriosis specialist, Dr. Camran Nezhat, who is the inventor and pioneer of modern minimally invasive and robotic surgery, who told me, “This pain is not in your head.” For the first time, I felt hopeful. I took the free Nezhat Endometriosis Risk Advisor online endometriosis quiz and scored an 85–90% match. Dr. Nezhat confirmed that surgery was a favorable option, as it would help with my pain and address other health concerns.
Endometriosis Awareness
As we traveled through Australia before my surgery, I noticed endometriosis awareness campaigns everywhere. This is after an awareness campaign in March every year by www.Endomarch.org. I learned that doctors like Dr. Jason Abbott are helping elevate awareness about endometriosis there, reminding me that my pain wasn’t “normal.” Some of the statistics shared included:
- Endometriosis affects roughly 10% (190 million) of reproductive-age women and girls globally. (Source: WHO)
- Endometriosis affects 1.5 million women—a similar number to those affected by diabetes. (Source: UK.Org)
- Average diagnosis of endometriosis takes an average of 7 years (Source: University of York)
What Exactly Is Endometriosis?
Endometriosis is a chronic condition in which tissue similar to the lining of the uterus (but not actual endometrium) grows outside the uterus. This tissue can spread to the ovaries, fallopian tubes, outer surface of the uterus, and other areas like the abdominal cavity, bladder, or colon, leading to severe pain, inflammation, and scar tissue formation. Unlike typical uterine lining that sheds during menstruation, this tissue has no exit route, causing painful adhesions and cysts.
Dr. Nezhat explained that even minimal amounts of this tissue can cause significant pain and infertility, though the severity and symptoms vary widely among individuals.
Though there’s no cure for endometriosis, treatments like hormonal therapy, pain management, and surgery can help manage symptoms. Early diagnosis and intervention are essential for quality of life and fertility preservation.
Taking Action Against Endometriosis Later in Life
Scheduling surgery felt like reclaiming control over my health. The diagnosis brought relief, clarity, and empowerment. My surgery uncovered endometriosis on my colon, back, and bladder. Dr. Nezhat reassured me that my pain wasn’t “in my head.”
In addition to excising the endometriosis, my appendix and fallopian tubes were removed to reduce cancer risks. I also underwent an endometrial ablation to manage future pain and bleeding.
My Endometriosis Prognosis Now
This journey is ongoing. I’m learning what works best for my body and prioritizing my well-being. I’ll have annual check-ups to monitor my pain and symptoms. Endometriosis may have been an invisible struggle, but I won’t stay silent any longer. To any woman reading this: trust your body, advocate for your health, and don’t let anyone diminish your pain. You deserve answers and relief.
Resources for Support and Information
For anyone seeking more information or support, resources like EndoMarch and AGCES offer valuable insights on endometriosis and are committed to raising awareness and supporting those affected. Remember, even a minimal amount of endometriosis can cause pain and infertility, and no one should endure this alone.
4 Must-Visit Date Spots in Cabo for a Special Night Out
Recently, I had the pleasure of visiting Cabo, and while the sun, sea, and vibrant atmosphere were every bit as breathtaking as you'd expect, what truly stood out were the magical date spots that transformed the trip into something special. Whether you're planning a romantic escape, a special night out, or just looking to experience Cabo's culinary and scenic beauty, here are four spots you absolutely can't miss.
1. Sage Restaurant in Cabo
Sage feels like an oasis in the middle of San José del Cabo’s bustling streets. When you step inside, you're welcomed by a chic yet inviting ambiance. The decor blends rustic and modern with earthy tones, soft lighting, and lush greenery, making the space feel intimate and relaxed. It’s the perfect spot for a romantic date or a night out with friends. The open-air design allows you to enjoy the cool evening breeze, enhancing the overall atmosphere of calm and relaxation.
The Menu: Baja Flavors with a Global Twist
At the heart of Sage’s appeal is its innovative menu, which elevates local Baja ingredients with international techniques. The dishes are a true reflection of the land and sea surrounding San José del Cabo. Think fresh, sustainable seafood, locally sourced produce, and bold flavors that pay homage to traditional Mexican cuisine while introducing international flair.
A few must-try dishes:
- Wood-grilled Octopus: This dish combines tender, perfectly charred octopus with a light citrus glaze, balancing smokiness with bright acidity.
- Baja Sea Bass: Fresh from the waters of Cabo, this sea bass is seared to perfection and served with seasonal vegetables.
- Lobster Risotto: Creamy, decadent, and full of rich flavors, this dish showcases the best of Baja's lobster harvest.
The cocktails are also worth a mention, especially their signature mezcal-based drinks that are refreshing and perfectly complement the flavors of the food. Whether you go for a classic margarita or something more adventurous, you won’t be disappointed.
2. Arbol Date Night in Cabo
Arbol is the spot for a date night that dazzles all the senses. Nestled within the lush grounds of Las Ventanas al Paraíso, this restaurant is all about opulence. When you walk in, you're greeted by the glow of tree-like installations, creating a magical atmosphere. The Asian-inspired menu offers everything from sushi to tandoor-style dishes, but the real showstopper here is the seafood. We indulged in their whole roasted sea bass, which was nothing short of divine. The vibe here is chic and upscale, making it ideal for couples who want a glamorous night out.
If you're looking for a hidden spot in Cabo to enjoy an evening of exceptional cocktails and a dash of mystery, look no further than the Speakeasy at Rosewood Las Ventanas al Paraíso. Tucked away in one of the most luxurious resorts in Cabo, this clandestine cocktail lounge offers an intimate, old-world experience that feels like stepping into a bygone era of glamour and intrigue.
The moment you enter the Speakeasy, you're transported to the Prohibition era, when these hidden bars were all about secrecy, exclusivity, and indulgence. The dim lighting, vintage decor, and low, smooth jazz playing in the background create an atmosphere as seductive as it is sophisticated. With plush seating, dark wood furnishings, and an intimate layout, it feels like a private retreat, perfect for a romantic date or a quiet night with friends.
3. The Amazing Acre Restaurant Experience in Cabo
Acre is more than just a restaurant—it's an experience. Tucked away in a lush palm forest, this spot offers a farm-to-table dining experience. The setting is idyllic, with open-air seating that immerses you in nature. The dishes here are fresh, vibrant, and locally sourced, focusing on sustainable farming. Their pork belly tacos are a must-try, paired perfectly with one of their inventive cocktails. After dinner, stroll around the property and explore their animal sanctuary, or even stay in one of their chic treehouses for the night. This place feels like an escape within an escape!
4. The Cabo Surf Hotel for a Laid-Back Experience
Cabo Surf Hotel has everything if you're looking for a laid-back, beachy vibe. Located right on the beach, this spot exudes casual elegance. Whether you’re surfing by day or simply relaxing by the waves, it's the perfect place for a sunset dinner. Seas, their beachfront restaurant, offers delicious seafood and Mexican fare with a laid-back vibe that’s perfect after a day in the sun. Watching the waves crash while enjoying the day's catch is pure bliss. Plus, they have live music on some nights, adding to the romantic, relaxed atmosphere.
Final Thoughts on a Lovely Date Night in Cabo
Cabo is a destination that offers so much more than just beautiful beaches. Each of these spots brings its own unique charm, from the luxe ambiance of Sage and Arbol to the earthy escape of Acre and the beachside charm of Cabo Surf Hotel. Whether you're planning a romantic trip or just want to treat yourselves to something special, these date spots will make your next Cabo getaway unforgettable!
Check out a recent episode where we talk all about travel tips, from packing to how to book the best hotel room!
20-Min On-the-Go Busy Mom Workout: My Favorite Moves to Stay Lean and Strong
Finding time to squeeze in a workout can feel like a luxury for a busy mom. Between juggling work, family, and everything in between, carving out even 20 minutes for myself is a challenge—but it's a priority I make for my health and sanity. Over time, I’ve discovered a few favorite exercises that can be done anywhere, whether I’m at home or on the go. These moves are quick, efficient, and perfect for keeping lean and strong, even with a packed schedule.
My Workout For Busy Moms
Here’s my go-to 20-minute workout, combining strength, cardio, and core for a full-body burn that doesn’t require much equipment or space. All you need is yourself, a set of sliders (or towels!), and a resistance band for added intensity.
At-Home Workout For Moms
Warm-Up for Busy Mom Workout Routine (2-3 Minutes)
It's important to get your muscles warm and ready for action before diving in. Start with a light cardio warm-up to get the blood flowing.
- Jumping Jacks or High Knees for 1 minute: I have a mini-trampoline that makes a warm-up so fun and easy
- Arm Circles (both forward and backward) for 30 seconds
- Hip Circles and Torso Twists for mobility, 30 seconds each
Core Burn for Mom Workouts (4 Minutes)
Kick off with some core-focused moves to fire up your abs.
1. Bicycle Crunches – 1 Minute
Lie on your back with hands behind your head. Alternate bringing opposite elbow to knee, extending the other leg straight. Focus on keeping your core tight and back flat on the ground.
2. Alternating Scissor Leg Crunches – 1 Minute
Stay on your back and raise both legs straight up. Lower one leg down toward the floor while reaching your opposite hand toward the lifted leg. Alternate sides for a deep core burn.
3. Oblique Dips – 1 Minute (30 seconds per side)
Get into a side plank position with one forearm on the ground and your feet stacked. Lower your hips toward the ground and raise them back up, targeting your obliques. Switch sides halfway through.
4. Glute Bridge March – 1 Minute
Lie on your back with your feet planted on the ground, hip-width apart. Press through your heels to lift your hips into a bridge. Alternate lifting one knee at a time toward your chest while keeping your hips stable.
Busy Mom Workout Lower Body Blast (6 Minutes)
Next, we hit the legs with exercises that build strength and tone while also getting the heart rate up.
5. Squat Jumps – 1 Minute
Stand with feet shoulder-width apart. Lower into a squat and then explode upward into a jump, landing softly back into a squat. This plyometric move gets your legs burning and adds a cardio burst. I typically try to get to 20 reps if I can.
6. Crab Walks – 1 Minute
Get into a squat position and stay low. Step to the side with one leg, then follow with the other leg. I like using an elastic band on my thigh to add resistance while I do these and do 15-20 steps per side.
7. Bulgarian Split Squats – 1 Minute (30 seconds per leg)
Place one foot on a chair or elevated surface behind you, with your front foot firmly planted. Lower into a lunge, keeping your front knee behind your toes. This move works the quads, glutes, and hamstrings while improving balance.
8. Clam Shells (with band) – 1 Minute (30 seconds per side)
Lie on your side with your knees bent and a resistance band around your thighs. Keep your feet together as you open and close your top knee, squeezing your glutes with each rep. This move targets the hips and outer thighs and also works great with an elastic band on the thighs. I try to bring these and sliders for lunges on most trips I take.
9. Lunges (with sliders) – 2 Minutes
Stand with one foot on a slider (or a towel if you’re on a hard surface). Slide your foot backward into a reverse lunge and return to standing. This adds an element of stability and control to a traditional lunge, engaging more muscles.
Upper Body & Full Body Combo Exercise for Moms (4 Minutes)
We’ll work the arms and full body to balance things out with these moves.
10. Tri Dips – 1 Minute
Use a chair or low surface to perform triceps dips. Lower yourself by bending your elbows, keeping them close to your body, and press back up. This move targets the back of the arms.
11. Skaters – 1 Minute
Hop from side to side, landing on one leg and bringing the opposite foot behind you like a speed skater. This move works the legs and improves lateral strength while boosting your cardio.
12. Calf Raises – 1 Minute
Stand with feet hip-width apart. Raise up onto your toes, squeezing your calves at the top, and slowly lower down. This simple yet effective move builds calf strength and definition.
13. Single-Leg Box Squats – 1 Minute (30 seconds per leg)
Find a sturdy surface (like a chair or bench) and stand in front of it. Perform a single-leg squat by sitting back on the surface and then pushing back up to stand using only one leg. This move is great for the quads and glutes.
Busy Momma Cool Down (2-3 Minutes)
Finish your workout with a well-deserved cooldown and stretch.
- Hamstring Stretch: Stretch one leg forward, keeping it straight, and lean into the stretch to feel it in the back of your thigh.
- Quad Stretch: Pull one foot toward your glutes, keeping your knees together, and feel the stretch in your thigh.
- Cat-Cow Stretch: On your hands and knees, alternate between arching your back upward (cat) and dropping your belly down (cow) to stretch the spine and improve mobility.
Why I Love This Workout Routine for Moms
This workout is perfect for busy moms who want to stay lean, strong and energized. It packs a full-body workout into just 20 minutes and can be done anywhere—whether at home, in a hotel room, or at the park while the kids play.
By incorporating these efficient, effective exercises, you’ll feel the burn, build strength, and keep your fitness goals on track, no matter how busy life gets! I found this article on Women’s Health Mag to be so helpful and inspired some of these moves: 17 Butt Exercises At Home For Strong, Toned Glutes, Per Trainers.
Unlocking Longevity: How Our Ovaries—and Whales—Might Hold the Key to Longer, Healthier Lives
It’s been a drumbeat in the headlines lately: Menopause. Is it a moment or a movement? I’m not sure yet, but I do know that as a woman at 42, the research and options for most symptoms are abysmal. It impacts our quality of life, though longevity is all the craze. As I planned for another spin on the topic, our last menopause episode being the most popular in the past year of the launch of MomShine, I thought to myself: What are we missing in this natural process of life that hasn’t already been talked about?
As a woman in my 40s who has finally figured out how to abide by most well-being rules to feel your best (i.e., increasing activity levels, lowering stress, building muscle, minimizing toxins), was I still on a path to not feeling healthy? Could the key to longevity and a higher quality of life be in tandem and reside in an often-overlooked body part—our ovaries? New research suggests that the health of our ovaries not only governs our reproductive abilities but could also play a crucial role in how well we age. Imagine that. I hadn’t given my ovaries that much thought besides cursing them monthly and thanking them for my three beautiful angels.
But science is revealing that these organs are more than just the bearers of future generations. Emerging studies, such as one highlighted by the National Library of Medicine, show that reproductive factors, notably fertility and fecundity (*the ability to produce an abundance of offspring), are significantly associated with increased female lifespan. The concept is simple yet powerful: by understanding how our ovaries function and change as we age, we might be able to enhance our quality of life and longevity.
A Rare Mammalian Phenomenon: Menopause and Its Impact
Human females are part of a very exclusive group in the animal kingdom—one of the few species that experience menopause. Whales, especially the Bowhead whale, share this trait. These majestic mammals live upwards of 250 years, and research is pointing to their ovarian health as a significant factor in their extraordinary lifespan—maturing sexually at around 10 to 15 years of age and remaining reproductively active past 100 years of age.
What makes the Bowhead whale’s reproductive system so unique? It appears that they’ve evolved their ovaries to remain functional for a much longer portion of their lives compared to humans. In contrast, women lose most of their ovarian function by age 51, with the onset of menopause on average.
Could there be lessons in this for us? Dr. Deena Emera, an evolutionary geneticist, is leading groundbreaking research into how studying the ovaries of whales might offer insights into delaying menopause or maintaining ovarian function for longer quality of life in humans. Her work focuses on the Bowhead whale, which has found ways to sustain its ovaries. This finding has opened up a world of possibilities for advancing women’s health.
Extending Menopause: A New Horizon in Women’s Health
As scientists like Dr. Emera dive deeper into ovarian research, there is a growing movement in science to explore how delaying menopause might revolutionize women's health outcomes. Dr. David Sinclair, a Harvard professor of genetics, is pushing the boundaries of aging science. His research into epigenetic reprogramming—where cells are essentially "rebooted"—could pave the way for rejuvenating aging tissues, including ovaries. Dr. Sinclair and his team believe they can reverse aging by restoring lost cellular information.
This is exciting news for women everywhere, offering the promise of better health and more vibrant lives as we age. Not only could delaying menopause give women more flexibility with fertility, but it could also improve the quality of life by reducing age-related ailments. Initiatives like the Global Consortium for Reproductive Longevity and Equality are already funding research to make these breakthroughs a reality.
Why It Matters Now
Women have been suffering age-related illnesses at higher rates than their male counterparts. A few of those rising statistics that I’ve learned through my interviews and research include:
- The lifetime risk of Alzheimer's disease is higher for women than men, and women are about twice as likely to have Alzheimer's than men.
- The majority of 10 million people in the US with osteoporosis are female; only 1 in 5 of all cases are male.
- According to the American Lung Association, “Lung cancer diagnoses have risen a startling 84% among women over the past 42 years while dropping 36% among men over the same period.”
Women, on average, live longer than men (*nearly six years longer on average), making an increase in certain diseases more likely. But could there also be a correlation between the drop in hormones and the deterioration of many of these health conditions that we feel first-hand?
After all, estrogen is a primary mover in women's bodies, with receptors in our gut, brain, and many other places—I learned from Claudia Levine, Founder of Pausology, in our recent episode and on her 3-hour course and program dedicated to helping women understand the basics as they enter into menopause. It’s no wonder women are evaluating hormone replacement therapies and other options to see if we can curb these alarming odds of health risks as we age and are in a plight to live our best lives.
What Can You Do to Boost Ovarian Health?
While the science of delaying menopause is still emerging, there are steps women can take today to prioritize their ovarian health. Keys include maintaining a balanced diet, staying active, and regularly consulting with a healthcare provider about reproductive health. Working with a physician who understands the intricacies of ovarian aging can make all the difference.
As we await further advancements in longevity research, staying informed and proactive about ovarian health is vital to ensuring that women can live longer and thrive through every phase of life. It’s also important to push our healthcare system to partner with women more and support more research.
The next frontier in longevity may be closer than we think, and it could start with understanding—and protecting—our ovaries.
*This article was inspired by a recent MomShine podcast episode featuring experts like Dr. Claudia Levine and evolutionary geneticist Dr. Deena Emera—the episode will launch on October 18th, for World Menopause Day.
8 Takeaways for Moms from Inspiring Women at the Hello Sunshine: Shineaway 2024 Event
A few weeks ago, I learned about Reese Witherspoon’s Hello Sunshine: Shine Away Event and quickly contacted their CEO, Sarah Harden to learn more and book a ticket. And boy, am I glad I did! The weekend was filled with inspiring women whose advice and messages fueled my journey to strive to build success by continuing to help busy moms shine.
As a mom of three, it took a lot to take a weekend away. But I thought—I’m always there for my kids, and this weekend will fuel my personal growth. As moms, we know how important that is and how it can inspire our children to pursue their dreams and passions in the future.
So, for all the moms needing inspiration as we head into another week, here are some top takeaways from the incredible women featured at this event. I highly recommend them to any woman looking to inspire their journey in the future. Reese’s team did not disappoint; there is something here for everyone!
Takeaways for Moms from the Shine Away 2024
Empowering women through new communities:
1) Hannah O’Flynn is Elevating Female Hoopers
The first powerhouse to take the stage was NBA commentator Hannah O’Flynn. She shared how she invested in herself and got accepted into Reese Witherspoon’s Hello Sunshine beta program this past year. Hannah highlighted a startling statistic: “Only 4% of media coverage across all sports focuses on women.” She’s working to change that daily.
She's quick to point out that the women’s games during March Madness in 2023 were watched by millions, with the Iowa vs. UConn game doubling the men's viewership. This gives her momentum to further her mission to elevate female athletes and shatter the glass backboards in every city she visits.
2) Octavia Spencer is Saying No and to Build Advocates with Like-Minded Communities
Octavia Spencer emphasized the importance of surrounding yourself with people who share your values. She explained that this support network helps her advocate for herself and know when to say no. She and Reese Witherspoon echoed that asking for help along the way is okay, too.
Octavia also shared that she’s working on a film adaptation of First Lie Wins, a thriller set in the South. She encouraged women to support each other by pre-ordering books, hitting the like button on Netflix (which influences future films), and following women-led projects.
Women in Business Advice From the Shine Away 2024 Event
3. Laura Dern Talked About “Keeping Your Eyes on Your Own Paper”
Actress and producer Laura Dern shared how she was taught to keep her eyes on her own paper at a young age and in growing up with two parents who were actors. She emphasized the importance of focusing on your journey rather than comparing yourself to others, allowing you to shine in your own right. She reminded us that “the same sun shines on all of us,” and there’s plenty of room at the table for everyone. Reese echoed the same sentiment and let everyone know it’s ok to have many things you’re involved in and not just one lane or avenue for growth.
4. Sarah Blakely Reminds Women They’re Worth Great Success
Sarah Blakely, founder of Spanx, started her company with humor and determination, famously using the tagline: "Don’t worry, we’ve got your butt covered." Despite having no advertising budget, her brand skyrocketed after being featured on ‘Oprah’s Favorite Things’ in November 2000. She shared how retailers once told her, “We’re going to war,” when she first started in a male-dominated industry. But Sarah founded Spanx on three principles—intuition, vulnerability, and empathy—and won by leading with those values. She’s now disrupting the footwear industry with her latest venture, Sneex.
5. “At the Top of Her Game” Panel Proved that Female Athletes Are Just Getting Started Disrupting Change in the Sports Industry
Candace Parker, Alex Morgan, and Diana Flores took the stage to discuss their paths to success. Diana shared her passion for flag football, which is set to debut on a global stage at the 2028 Olympics. Candace Parker reflected on the impact of Title IX and its impact on women in sports. At the same time, Alex Morgan discussed her recent retirement and her ongoing work through the Alex Morgan Foundation and Togethxr, her media company advocating for women in sports.
Women Overcoming Imposter Syndrome at the Shine Away Event
6. Imposter Syndrome Has No Place for Women in Business
During a session led by The Bright Side podcast hosts, panelists like Gaby Dalkin and Amanda Kloots tackled imposter syndrome. The session broke down four types of imposter syndrome:
- The Perfectionist: anything less than perfect is a fail
- The Natural Genius: someone for whom everything has always come very easily
- Super Woman: you try to juggle everything
- The Expert: the one who doesn’t like to be referred to as an expert
The panelists emphasized that imposter syndrome often appears when you’re on the verge of a breakthrough and shared strategies to overcome it. For example, Amanda demonstrated a yoga star pose to increase confidence and make yourself larger instead of smaller in everything you do. Hosts of the Bright Side, Simone Boyce, and Danielle Robay, discuss how competence and repetition can lead to confidence later.
7. Pivoting Careers Can Be Powerful
Another standout session featured Kate Bowler, Brooke Baldwin, Amanda Kloots, and Danielle Ponder. Each woman shared how pivoting from one career to another allowed them to find greater fulfillment. Danielle Ponder, for example, transitioned from a public defender to a music producer, while Brooke Baldwin left CNN to explore new opportunities in journalism.
Amanda emphasized that she’s learned to do less through her work with Tyler Henry and his mantras so we don’t constantly cloud our minds with what we’re doing and can look for signs instead. Another good test is to look at the past with a straightforward question: If you returned to that time, would you fit in anymore? It’s okay to change and honor all aspects of yourself. And it’s only in staying calm that we can meet the world wholeheartedly and with our best selves.
8. We Can Elevate the Future of Women’s Health and Wellness
On day two, Dr. Marie Claire, Lauren Makler, Tatyana Ali, and Naomi Watts discussed the future of women’s health. Naomi Watts, who founded Stripes Beauty, spoke about breaking the taboo around menopause. Dr. Marie Claire addressed the medical gaslighting women face and encouraged women to become their health advocates. The session ended with a powerful message: setbacks are setups for a brighter future, and the magic of change starts in rooms like these.
FINAL TAKEAWAYS FROM THE HELLO SUNSHINE SHINE AWAY 2024
This event was filled with stories and lessons that inspired me and made me eager to share with other moms. I loved meeting and networking with other powerhouse moms, like Stephanie Fornaro, Founder of Hello Nanny.com—a site dedicated to resourcing more help needed for families.
Please follow along on Instagram @MomShineco for more coverage of this incredible event.
The Mompreneur Playbook: How Annabelle DeGrazio Went from Lawyer to Building a Million-Dollar Celeb-Loved Candle Company
Annabelle DeGrazio didn’t just build a business—she started with a mission to make people happy and bring back the art of thoughtful gift-giving. Her candle company, now loved by celebrities and featured in glossy magazines, started with a clear vision, passion, and thoughtful steps. And, of course, there are challenges along the way. For moms with dreams of starting a business and capitalizing on their next big idea, here’s how Annabelle’s journey can serve as a blueprint for success.
Step 1: Make Your Main Goal Top of Mind
Annabelle prioritized creating a luxury candle brand that offered something unique to the market. Her goal wasn’t just to make candles; she wanted her products to evoke feelings of luxury and comfort. Before starting your business, define your goal—whether it’s creating a product that’s high-quality, accessible, or niche—and let that guide every decision you make. Keeping your main objective front and center will help ensure your brand remains true to its core mission all along the way.
Step 2: Get Proof of Concept Before Launching
Annabelle didn’t dive in without testing the waters first. She sought feedback from her network and tested her candle concepts at small events to gauge interest and refine the product. Before getting started, she even went to tradeshows with her prototype to test laser-engravers. Proof of concept is essential—it gives you the confidence that your idea resonates with your target audience before investing significant resources. Whether it’s running a small batch or starting with pre-orders, make sure your concept has legs before scaling it up.
Step 3: Build a Sustainable, Eco-Conscious Company
From the beginning, Annabelle considered her business's environmental impact. She chose sustainable ingredients and eco-friendly packaging and worked with manufacturers who shared her values. Today’s customers, especially celebrities and influencers, are drawn to brands aligning with their sustainability commitment. A McKinsey stat shows that 63% of all consumers surveyed consider a brand’s promotion of sustainability an important purchasing factor for products. Consider how your product can be made with the environment in mind and how to highlight that to your audience.
Step 4: Put Your Unique Spin on Your Product
The candle industry is saturated and a $3.5 billion industry. But Annabelle set herself apart by adding a unique twist—luxury fragrances inspired by nature, wrapped in minimalist yet elegant packaging. She found a way to express her vision through her products, which made them instantly recognizable. Ask yourself: How can you make your product stand out? Whether in design, materials, or branding, your personal touch will make it memorable.
Bonus Tip: Add Community or Personalization
Annabelle’s brand doesn’t just sell candles—it sells an experience. She invites her customers into a community where they can personalize their purchases or connect over shared values, like sustainability or self-care. She encourages brands to think outside the box when personalizing products for their customers. For one large hospital, she even helped them personalize the tops of the candles for patients.
Consider how you can foster community and inspire your base through a thoughtful product. That interaction with businesses and consumers alike is key to her business, and personalization sets her company apart from the rest to connect customers with her brand.
Step 5: Reach Out to Influencers in a Cost-Effective Way
Annabelle’s candles caught the attention of influencers, but she didn’t blow her budget on big celebrity endorsements right away. Instead, she leveraged micro-influencers and offered her products as gifts in exchange for posts and reviews to their like-minded audience. This built buzz around her brand and got her candles into the hands of some of the biggest names in Hollywood. Find influencers who align with your brand’s values and reach out in ways that won’t break the bank.
Step 6: Start Small and Scale Up
Annabelle didn’t try to become a global brand overnight. She started with small batches, refined her product, and scaled her business as demand grew. By starting small, she could stay focused on her original goal while being nimble enough to adjust. As your business grows, always keep your main goal in mind and make thoughtful, measured decisions that will allow you to scale effectively. She still leverages her background as a lawyer to make intelligent business decisions in hiring and employee culture as she scales.
Final Thoughts: How Annabelle DeGrazio’s Entrepreneurial Steps Can Apply to You
Annabelle DeGrazio’s journey is inspiring. Following these steps, you can create a business that aligns with your values, captures your passion, and grows with intention.
Subscribe to listen to the full episode on Thursday, 10/3, and for more of Annabelle’s top tips and tricks for mompreneurs to scale strong businesses.
4 Family Activities To Do on Your Next Trip to Japan
Since Japan opened its doors to tourists after the pandemic, I know many of my friends haven’t been able to get enough of this fantastic country. It’s tough to beat when 1 US dollar equals roughly 142 Japanese Yen.
Japan is also a vibrant cultural mix of ancient traditions and modern elements, making it an unforgettable family travel destination. I had one friend implement the purse handkerchief every woman carries to wipe their hands delicately after a bathroom visit. How clean and thoughtful, too!
Here are some tips I’ve gathered through friends and my favorite travel planner and expert, Kristina Watkins of KW Lux Travel, so you can plan your next trip to this beautiful country and create lasting memories for your family soon.
Best Things to Do in Japan with Kids
1. Book a Guide to See the Tsukiji Fish Market
For an authentic taste of Japanese culture, take a guided tour of the iconic Tsukiji Fish Market. While the inner market has moved, the outer market remains bustling with fresh seafood, local delicacies, and unique street food. A guide will help you navigate this busy spot, ensuring you get the whole experience while learning about the significance of Japan’s seafood trade.
2. Watch a Sumo Wrestling Match
Introduce your family to Japan’s national sport by attending a sumo wrestling match. These larger-than-life athletes perform ancient rituals and display incredible strength and agility. Watching sumo live is an exciting and educational way to experience a tradition that goes back centuries. It’s a spectacle the whole family will enjoy!
3. Explore teamLab Borderless Light Art Installation
teamLab Borderless is an immersive, digital art museum where the boundaries of art, technology, and imagination dissolve. Children and adults alike will be mesmerized as they walk through rooms of constantly shifting, interactive light displays. It's an inspiring, one-of-a-kind experience that transports you to a world where art and technology meet most magically.
4. Participate in a Geisha Tea Ceremony
Step into the past by joining a traditional Geisha tea ceremony. This experience allows your family to witness a geisha's grace, poise, and artistry while learning Japanese tea rituals. It’s a calming, beautiful ceremony that gives you a deeper appreciation of Japan's historical and cultural heritage. The serene atmosphere will leave your family feeling connected to ancient traditions.
Make the most of your next family trip to Japan
These activities will give your family a perfect blend of education, entertainment, and cultural immersion. Whether you're exploring the old-world charm of a tea ceremony or marveling at cutting-edge art, Japan is a destination that offers something for everyone.
Listen to my episode with Kristina for more tips on family travel, including what not to do when traveling abroad with young kids.
What the Women's Health PAC Conference Taught Me About Supporting Women’s Health
This past week, I attended the bipartisan Women’s Health Political Action Committee (WHPAC) event on September 12th in San Francisco to support this critical movement. The evening started with cocktails and appetizers, leading to an impressive lineup of guest speakers who shared their passion for women's health.
WHPAC speakers
- Dr. Bayo Curry-Winchell is Founder and Chief Medical Officer - Beyond Clinical Walls & Urgent Care Medical Director - Saint Mary's Health Network
- Joanna Strober is the CEO & Founder of Midi Health
- Elizabeth (Busy) Burr was Interim CEO of Rite Aid and is a Board Member of SVBFG, Mr. Cooper, and Satellite Healthcare/WellBound
Why Support Women’s Health PAC?
For years, women have largely been excluded from scientific research, studies, and considerations, which has led to our current position. In one interview I conducted on Menopause alone, CEO Donna Klasson of a leading women's health organization said, “Part of it is not knowing that options are limited because women have generally been understudied, under-researched, and not enough money has been dedicated to studying menopause.” That's why more needs to be done to promote education and understanding of women's health.
The movement hopes to make women’s health a national priority. By supporting WHPAC, you champion efforts to increase funding for women's health research, improve access to healthcare for women of color and those in rural areas, and address barriers in maternal and menopausal care for women. There needs to be more to promote education and understanding of women's health.
The ultimate goal of WHPAC is to drive positive change, equalize gender disparities in medical research and healthcare solutions, and promote education and understanding of women's health issues throughout the lifespan from head to toe. Co-founders include Liz Powell, Jodi Neuhauser, and Candace McDonald, and co-leads of the San Francisco PAC are Allison Lewin, Diana Lyman, and Neda Razani.
4 Things I Learned at San Francisco’s Women’s Health PAC
1. Certain cancers are on the rise in women, in particular
Burr shared a personal story of her wife’s struggle with ovarian cancer. It took her life in 2 years and was virtually undetectable due to its origin of starting in the fallopian tubes. Another alarming rate of diagnosis for women is lung cancer. According to the American Lung Association, “Lung cancer diagnoses have risen a startling 84% among women over the past 42 years while dropping 36% among men over the same period.” Burr’s thought is whether it could be household cleaning products that women are taking more of the labor to do around the house or is it something else?
Commonwealthfund.org shows that in 2020, at the start of the pandemic, 53 million Americans (more than 20% of the population) acted as caregivers to an adult or child with disabilities. That is not surprising given the circumstances at the time, but more than 60% of these people were women. Around the world, up to 81% of all caregivers for older people are female. This could be just one of the many factors showing increases in health challenges and increases for women.
2. Black women experience a maternal mortality rate of 3X
Dr. Bayo led a powerful talk about her experience after birth, and her TEDx Talk was rated one of the top-viewed videos in 2023 and has been viewed nearly 42 million times. Watch it here to hear what happened, but essentially, doctors brushed off her pain and symptoms post-birth of her second child when, in fact, she was experiencing internal bleeding. She could have died if her husband hadn’t rushed her to the OR just in time.
Why does she think this could have happened, especially to a doctor with all the resources to help her, and how could this have happened to women’s tennis pro Serena Williams, too? Unconscious bias. We all have it, but when it impacts big issues and becomes a systemic problem to treat patients for preventable symptoms, that’s when more work needs to be done to change certain interwoven perceptions that are not accurate.
3. It will take bipartisan efforts to move the needle for women’s health
Strober asked participants how the DEA is voting on laws without realizing the impact on women. One meaningful one, for instance, is the rollback of virtual telehealth visits for prescriptions and its effects on women getting certain meds like Gabapentin, Ativan, Lunesta, etc. To read more, see her post on LinkedIn and be sure to sign the petition.
Also, consider joining the Women’s Health PAC founder's circle. It involves both sides (Democratic and Republican) coming together to make progress on key issues. Do your homework to understand the issues at play and how you can support and help. The event closed, reminding the audience of important upcoming dates—an online event to elect the democratic side in women’s health matters on September 16th. On the 26th, the Republican “Wonder Women PAC” will host an event. This article on what’s at stake in this election also highlights the different policy approaches.
4. New products are coming to support a more proactive, instead of reactive approach to women’s health
Brendan Foley is another awesome person to know who is leading women’s health options, care, and products to help. He attended the event, and Foley started Eve Wellness, a 3D ultrasound—a free screening that can be done within an hour. They’re on a mission to fill the void in breast cancer screenings.
Michelle Agudelo, the founder of Haus of Flow, changed careers when she experienced first-hand how overwhelmingly overlooked menstrual education has been globally. Today, she teaches girls, women, and companies the benefits of cycle syncing. She provides comprehensive education about the menstrual cycle and how to address underlying symptoms so they can enjoy their periods. Michelle sees the WHPAC as a way to focus attention, bi-partisan support, and capital on something that affects the nearly 60 million women in the United States who are of reproductive age.
To attend future women’s health events, visit Women’s Health PAC to learn more. Sign up to support, educate yourself further with an election, and help prioritize women’s health. Also, listen to our episode on how to get in front of menopause symptoms with new help for 30’s+, and stay tuned for more. There is so much we can do to improve women’s health in America, and I love being a part of and seeing organizations like this that are just getting started.
Give Yourself Permission: 4 Questions to Allow Yourself to Live a Happier, Wealthier Life
Are you tired of shame, blame, regret, and fear of failure holding you back from ultimate happiness and wealth? Kim O’Hara, the host and author of Gone with the Gunk: Permission to be Happy and Wealthy Women, believes it’s time for women to permit themselves to celebrate, inspire, and bask in a new paradigm!
Life is too short to suffer in silence. This panel brought women together, and I was honored to participate. We talked about how to clear the gunk in your life. It was hosted at the beautiful NeueHouse in Venice Beach on August 29th. The main goal:
Allow women to give themselves permission to live happier, more prosperous lives.
Expert Insights on Granting Yourself Permission
About the Host:
Kim O’Hara is a book coach in Los Angeles who spent years in television before becoming a book coach. She’s the author of the self-help book No Longer Denying Sexual Abuse: Making the Choices That Can Change Your Life. She has contributed to the LA Times and prestigious literary journals as an essayist. She writes a weekly Substack column, "I Give You Permission," based on her up-and-coming book, Gone with the Gunk: Permission to be Happy and Wealthy Women.
About the Panelists (from left to right):
I talked about my life for over a decade, building two successful startups (Glassdoor and Lever) as a journalist, brand builder, and content marketer. Upon the birth of my third, I felt lost and took the plunge to build a venture and podcast, MomShine—while still writing in tech and honoring that side of myself.
Jae Wu is a lifelong entrepreneur who owns a residential real estate business in West Los Angeles. She loves the life she has created and enjoys sharing how she conquered life’s challenges to fulfill her dreams. She is the mother of 2 amazing boys, happily married to her husband of over 20 years. She enjoys staying physically active through beach volleyball, pickleball, running, and almost anything that involves movement.
Allison Andrews Canter was wired for success from a young age and chased every opportunity she could. This led her to create San Diego Fashion Week, the longest-running and biggest independently owned and operated fashion week. She did all this while raising three little kids and authoring the book Ownership. In Ownership, Canter encourages you to get out of yourself, reach for the ultimate soul version of yourself, and inspire those around you to improve.
Before starting her coaching and consulting practice Becoming Better Together, Jen Mayer led Teach For America’s national Staff Learning and Development team, which designed and facilitated leadership and liberatory-consciousness-based work for more than 1,700 people.
4 Questions Central to Giving Yourself Permission
1) How can you stop fearing failure and make friends with your past to live a more fulfilled life?
If you want to be an entrepreneur, I hate to break it to you, but there is a lot of failure along the way. There can be some things you view as failure where you shift your thinking not to fear it so much but embrace it. I love how Dr. Emmett Miller referred to losing in this episode about Becoming Your Best Self. He turned that thinking into a simple analogy you can teach your kids.
You Either Win or You Learn
With that one simple shift, you can change how you look at failure so it’s not a fear but a welcome partner on your journey. There is always something to learn, even when things don’t go your way. Rewriting outdated scripts and learning resilience empowers you to succeed and view each milestone as a learning instead of a loss.
2) Is there a way to put shame, blame, and worry in the trash?
According to Allison on the panel, shame, and worry can be tools to self-reflect and look at something else to help guide you on a better path. If you aren’t regretting some things to some extent, you aren’t growing, and those signs could be something to look deeper into for answers. So, regret could be your tool and catapult your growth. As busy moms, you can worry all day and regret many things. That’s why there’s repair.
But shame should be put aside to protect women’s health. So many women don’t look into health problems because of the shame we are taught at young ages, and it doesn’t serve us. Instead, we often suffer in silence when we’re told the symptoms are normal and a part of our everyday lives.
I like how Gemma Allen discusses it in this Forbes article with Dr. Mary Claire, a doctor, and influencer in this space with over 3 million followers. She writes, “Menopause is finally coming of age via a generation of women refusing to accept stigma and generalizations and instead demanding an inclusive, shame-free system that is as broad and nuanced as the lives and experiences of those it serves.”
3) How can you be ok not knowing the outcome when granting yourself permission?
As women, we overanalyze, thinking we are supposed to know the return on investment (or ROI) of everything we set out to do. We are under societal pressure to perform and not fail because we have been pushing upstream in mud for so long. As the moderator and host, Kim assured us that the best accomplishments are when we dive in without knowing the answers and instead follow our hearts.
For me, it was wanting to quit a year into MomShine and then waking up to the show being honored multiple times by the Communicator Awards. I still don’t know the outcome, but stick with it if you feel called to something! You do have to enjoy your journey and compete with yourself daily as your barometer of success. Only by embracing the struggle can you be ok with whatever the outcome might be.
4) How can women feel more powerful and not give power away?
Jae drove home a strong message in her response to this question on the panel. Her adversaries and critics constantly commented on her energy and overconfidence. Her reply: “I shouldn’t have to make myself smaller, so you feel more comfortable.” I couldn’t agree more with this statement. Women should own their confidence and positivity in their day-to-day lives and tune out the external noise that doesn’t serve them. The more you can tap into your power and own it, the less others will feel enabled to take it away.
I also believe in ruthless prioritization as a busy mom. How can you become a “one less thing” gal and take something off the never-ending list of to-dos? How can you shift and simplify to focus only on what will catapult your growth? These areas fire me up and inspire me to continue interviewing experts and pumping out great content for MomShine—helping simplify all the daily things busy moms struggle with!
MomShine is Here to Help You Prioritize Yourself for Success and Happiness
Follow the MomShine show for more clips from the panel, and subscribe to our newsletters to learn more. I’d love to see this intimate panel and discussion in the Bay Area soon, so stay tuned for more! It was a night where women left feeling connected, enabled, and more powerful to say no and give permission to grow, change, and learn on their journeys to success and happiness.